Teenagers listen to people who can truly connect with them, who understand their point of view, and don’t accuse them of being a bad person. This is why teenagers don’t talk to their parents because they’re scared of them thinking they’re failures. That’s why we lie lie lie lie lie because we are scared that we are not good people. It’s like you can’t help an alcoholic if you yourself have never gotten drunk. Kids open up when all you say is, it’s okay I understand and really mean it. Then they open up. An authoritative figure who can also be honest and admit their flaws is someone we would be willing to try listening to. Try acting more of an equal.